Monthly Archives: April 2021

The Value of Ushers

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The value of ushers at your wedding cannot be overstated. You can choose to include them as an official part of your wedding party or they can take a less formal role as greeters or hosts. The benefit of having ushers is hard to overstate. Here are ten ways ushers can help provide an outstanding ceremony experience:

  1. Ushers can greet guests as they arrive, directing them to parking, restrooms and the ceremony space.
  2. Ushers can make sure that programs, water, lap blankets or any other items you’ve planned for your guests’ comfort are in place and handled correctly.
  3. Guests can be difficult to corral for the beginning of the ceremony. Ushers can move guests to the seats for an on time ceremony start.
  4. They can ensure that grandparents and others you’ve reserved seats for find their spot.
  5. Outdoor venues with grass can offer a trip hazard. Offering an arm to escort any guests who are unstable on their feet is a service ushers routinely provide.
  6. Even if you opt for an informal ceremony and want your guests to choose their own seats, ushers can help let guests know that, along with which rows are reserved.
  7. Ushers serve as an escort for parents or grandparents in the processional if other arrangements have not been made.
  8. Once the processional begins, ushers can hold back any late arriving guests. Once the ceremony begins, they can help them discretely find seats.
  9. Ushers can assist any guests who need to leave the ceremony space before the ceremony ends. Perhaps a parent with an unruly child needs to be directed to a quiet space. Or a guest urgently needs a restroom or shade.
  10. And finally, ushers can release guests from their seats following the ceremony, and direct them to the appropriate location for after ceremony festivities.
The value of ushers at wedding ceremonies

While ushers have historically been male friends or relatives of the groom, you don’t have to follow that tradition. It can be helpful to have ushers who know both sides of the family to identify grandparents and others who should be seated in the reserved section. These days ushers can be women, men or a couple of any gender. Select people who understand the value of ushers and they’ll be appreciated by you and your guests. Great ushers can relieve stress and add a classy touch to the beginning of your wedding day.

Fully vaccinated – Resuming All Celebrant Services

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Fully vaccinated – two of the most encouraging and freeing words in the world these days. I completed the COVID-19 vaccination series on April 1st, and am considered fully vaccinated as of the day this blog posts. Therefore, I am resuming all celebrant services.

Being fully vaccinated allows me to move more freely in the world. As more Minnesotans get vaccinated, it will be safer for all of us. I’m encouraged by the rate of vaccinations happening in the Rochester area and throughout the state. The governor has eased restrictions on gatherings, and my phone and email are busy again.

Custom Weddings

Clients are planning ceremonies for later this year and for next year, and I’m happy to book a full range of ceremony services for August 2021 and later. So if you’re looking for a simple Certificate Signing or Vow Exchange in Rochester I can help. If you want a custom ceremony in Rochester or throughout southeastern Minnesota, please take a look through this website, and contact me. I’d love to learn more about what you want in your wedding ceremony, a welcoming ceremony for your new baby, or a special memorial service to honor a loved one. I can offer options and suggestions based on the more than 400 ceremonies I’ve officiated over the past 11 years.

Custom memorial services

I’m still offering no cost, no obligation initial consultations via video at this time. Until more of the population is able to access vaccines and become fully vaccinated that’s the safest way for us to connect. As the weather warms we can arrange to meet in person outside, too.

Family puzzle for Child Welcoming ceremony.

As ceremony planning starts to pick up, and we look forward to gathering with loved ones to celebrate the important moments in life, please know that I am here to support you, to work with you to craft the ceremony you want, and to authentically celebrate your milestone moment!

Moving Beyond the Big Three – Create Meaningful Ceremony

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Moving beyond the big three allows you to consider other moments in life that might benefit from meaningful ceremony. In recent weeks I’ve written about the big three: weddings, naming ceremonies, and memorial services. Now it’s time to discuss some lesser considered milestones that are enhanced when you honor them with a ceremony component.

Milestone birthdays: A new decade or coming of age are great opportunities to celebrate with ceremony. Mark an 80th or 90th birthday (or any other you choose to celebrate) with a tribute ceremony. Family members and friends can recall special times shared with the honoree or share how they have influenced the speaker’s life. Mementos of the honoree’s life can be displayed, and their accomplishments can be shared. You’ll definitely want to give the honoree a chance to address the group, too, and share both wisdom and gratitude for those who have gathered. A 16th or 21st birthday can recognize the transition from child to adult.

Professional transitions: Perhaps someone obtained a significant promotion, opened a new business, or is transitioning to retirement. These professional milestones can be recognized with a look back at the accomplishments or contributions, and a look forward to the opportunities that lie ahead.

Divorce: Of course, it doesn’t inspire the happiness of the wedding day, but you can’t deny that experiencing divorce is a major life event. As such, ceremony can help you on this journey. Depending on your individual circumstances and preferences you can hold a divorce ceremony shortly after you decide to divorce, with your spouse participating. The objective here is to focus on your intent to walk this path with integrity, maturity, and respect for each other. You might hold a divorce ceremony with your children (especially if under 18), where you each voice your undiminished love for them, and your commitment to keep their needs front and center as you create a new definition of family.
Lastly, as you reach the end of the divorce process, you may benefit from a ceremony where you embrace your new identity, set new goals for your new situation, and receive support from loved ones.

Guest lists for each of these types of ceremonies are smaller than for a wedding or memorial. Sometimes it may be a very small group of immediate family, or supportive friends. The key with all of the ceremonies is to craft the content, setting, guest list and surrounding activities to meet the wishes and needs of the honorees. Moving beyond the big three when considering the role ceremony can play as you move through life can provide wonderful memories and bring you close together with the important people in your life.